], Blonde (how many men are said to have blonde moments?). Id add conniving to the list. someone who is bossy keeps telling other people what to do, in a way that annoys them, telling people what to do and refusing to listen to their opinions, deliberately involving yourself in other peoples lives and trying to influence the way that they behave, although you have no right to do this, an overbearing person always tries to control other peoples behaviour and ignores their opinions and feelings, trying to control other people and make them obey you, telling people what to do without caring what they think, frequently asking or telling someone to do something in a way that annoys them, involving yourself in situations that you have no right to be involved in, becoming involved in something in a way that is not welcome, always criticizing someone, or always telling them to do things, showing that you are used to being obeyed or expect to be obeyed, expecting other people to work very hard and carefully, confident and expecting to be obeyed and respected by people, informal giving advice or telling people how to behave, in a way that is annoying, stating what should happen, or what someone should do, informal extremely determined to get what you want, even if it annoys other people. If you dont think this happens during the hiring process, then you either conveniently fail to notice because you benefit from said system or youve never worked in a hiring capacity before. There are certainly some here that I have not considered before and will update my list accordingly. But, they should start calling everyone boss and chief or just switch to sir and madam. If they yell, we call it robust, or heated. Baby-hater (or any implication that working females hate kids) Dont say shes had facial surgery unless you say he dyes his hair or has hair plugs. Dont mention her young children unless you would also mention his, or describe her clothes unless you would describe his, or say shes shrill or attractive unless the same adjectives would be applied to a man. Another lad from sixth form who asked me out accused me of being snooty when I said I didnt fancy him, and then went and told all his friends that I refused to date him because I was vain and thought I was better than him! Or that we should place value on x, y, or z. Bolshy. Other words were disproportionately applied to women, including bossy, aggressive, strident, emotional and irrational. Its so so so hard to swim against the tide. No sexist comments will be published. Dontyoure just being politically correct. Brilliant post, (as usual!) 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Hooters Youll nod in agreement with some of these examples, and be puzzled at the inclusion of others. When I really looked at it, I thought the guy is a degenerate loser. Try-hard When men and women display the same behaviours in, say, a workplace, men are much more likely to be called assertive confident, powerful or a strong leader, while women get this list. Your email address will not be published. I live in New Zealand, and I would definitely not describe it as hypersensitive to offence. Great to see you on the Twits, too! The Missus You dont make any sense. 10. Wifey Sometimes it is used to describe objects and scenery, but that is because the thing in question is evoking strong emotion from the person describing it. As a woman in tech with the exact same (down to college and post-grad university) credentials as my husband I can tell you that our salaries have never been close, even while working for the same (progressive) company in the same position at the same time. Believe it or not, Im not hysterically upset over life, but Im not going to lie and pretend that we live in some fantasy where everyone is treated fairly and gets the same interview. Dont say she has no professional training but he worked his way up. I have better understanding and am a better person having read it. An unpleasant male boss is rarely known as bitchy, although gay men can face a similar plight to. Have you ever heard a man called a gossip? Feminism is neither a dying cause, nor one that is doing more harm than good. However in more enlighten circles of people, lots of equality is currently happening, more confident men that know there value are much less threatened by women and value the equal companionship. I could probably list pages, and pages, of these words. It is crucial that people articulate this; and articulate the fact that, compared to insults against males, the language that insults women and girls is extensive in reach and vast in quantity. How many men have you hearddescribed as working fathers, let alone dadpreneurs? It doesnt mean that women are being compared to objects. the behaviour they describe often goes unremarked in men. Wearing the trousers 4. In reading this I realise that if you expect bitchiness surely that is what youll experience. Never heard it used toward a man. Menstrual blues As Sarah writes, . ), also used to describe women. (Related, bossy) Sassy: An adjective used to describe a woman with a personality. If I do, I am met with a stony silence and they look past me as though I havent spoken. For example, if you call a man a bastard you are actually also insulting his MOTHER by inferring she had illicit sex! Or be careful to use words like spirited and feistyof men and boys too, if you enjoyusing them in a positive way. eh. You are in a minority. I am a gay man, and in the 15 years that I have been out, Ive never faced abuse. Finally, my WHOLE family have constantly failed to support me, undermined my achievements, thwarted my progress, and constantly insulted me. And my brothers have daughters, and its likely the same for them too. I am sorry you missed that point! So its a good thing weve got other words for that kind of bossy, too, she notes. I bet there are plenty more that women would like to rename or reclaim, since pretty much everyone doing the anatomical, physiological and medical naming over the years has been male. Race, gender, and sexual orientation are legally protected classes for a reason. "Abrasive alone is used 17 times to describe 13 different women. So, in sum, many words used ostensibly to insult males actually indirectly INSULT FEMALES. I feel for the younger generation of women coming through and hope they are not subjected to the same level of sexism but alas, a lot of young men are still being brought up as being the privileged gender, expecting to be the main breadwinner and having a wife at home to raise the children and do all the housework. Selfish career-woman Honest When you speak the hard truth, people can't believe what just came out of your mouth. Words like bossy, abrasive, strident, and aggressive are used to describe women's behaviors when they lead; words like emotional and irrational describe their behaviors when they. Fox News prime-time host Tucker Carlson called a senior executive the c-word in a redacted missive, and the network grew wary of further possible embarrassment. So "bossy" was a way to cast a woman as unfeminine and unnatural. Thank you. Males were created good; females were created bad. You use a lot of very emotive language (e.g. This is the best goddam article Ive ever read on the subject. Horrors! I find it is much healthier to accept others as doing their best given their upbringing and experience. Ask yourself if you speak critically about men as often as you do about women. I have worked hard all my life (3 degrees) and have received no help from any of my family, only criticism. The accusation he made is cloaking his fear that I am somehow taking away his freedom of speech. But we deal with them as inevitable facts. And dont get me started on working mother. There is a whole glossary of terms that are utilised linguistically to denigrate women. Thats illegal. Do you mean exclusively so? Engage in the needs assessment 7. They do not. Required fields are marked *. Heres Dotty Winters take on the question: Women are either equal to men, or they arent and language that goes unchallenged is one of the many ways we allow inequality to lurk around in the dusty corners of offices. Have you heard about the campaign to #banbossy? By actively working to have folks see God as more than a male, deity who uses power over others, I have unintentionally claimed as feminine the characteristics of compassion, mutuality, empowerment, etc. If youve found this article thoughtful and useful, and would like to support me to write more stuff like this, head on over. People are often surprised when I raise issues of discrimination in the church. Lerner, in one of the chapters, also points out that for every one insult linguistically available to describe a male, there are about ten that describe a female. . I started writing them down a little while ago. Breathless, adj Commonly applied to women who look 'flustered' and suggesting an inability to control. SCOLDING Actually she was highly intelligent and accomplished beyond belief and her mind just raced forward and she didnt have time for bullshit because of her enormous workload. In any case, we hope you are now able to express what you feel about them. This is a reaction to Sheryl Sandbergs current campaign to get people to stop using the word bossy when describing females. You also make quite a lot of demands (e.g. Maybe you could add a section on things we do ourselves without realising it. She has also insinuated that I emasculate her son. Anyone who is involved in giving performance appraisals, mentoring people or otherwise evaluating and describing human beings as a job, might want tostick this advice to journalists from Gloria Steinem on their walls (feel free to copy it and pop it in someones in-tray): The most workable definition of equality for journalists is reversibility. My father insultingly called my interest in English Literature piss assed and arty-farty, whilst clearly showing a preference for stereotypically male topics like football. Cankles, Insulting sexist medical (or pseudo-medical) terms: Minger And when people start incorrectly accusing Feminists of devaluing the home or care of the vulnerable. Peoples lifestyle choices are THEIR OWN, and thus the value that they hold can only be measured in terms of how the PERSON CHOOSING VALUES IT. You tell it as it is because you know you're telling the truth. This seems to infer that you would place extra emphasis upon the home, and child care which, at the end of the day, risks becoming sexist, because these things are stereotypically female roles. Ball-breaker I grew up with two older brothers, and a father who is pretty dominant, and so much of this is just (I think) completely unconscious for them, and so for me too. Is this trivial? For When 'Lowdown Crook' Isn't Specific Enough. It would be wise and compassionate for you to listen to those who are in the majority here. May this long list of words to describe a woman be continually helpful to you and that you have found it to be inspiring. Worst of all I could do it completely without thinking. I dont hate men, and I dont see anything in this article that suggests I do. conversation in a workplace! Lifestyle; Real Life; 20 words we only use to describe women. Feel free to exclaim that you didnt know a particular wordcould be sexist, but please dont dismiss peoples experiences as you do so. Independent: a woman who is self-sufficient and not dependent on others. Your email address will not be published. Here are just a few words to be careful about: Princess (as a default term of address to a girlyou dont know well. Pushy/Assertive. Oh and whilst Im still thinking about it, can we please consider adding the following to the list? You are welcome to write one about words like macho and effeminate. How about these more accurate descriptors? It was my fault that I only had one child as I was too much of a career woman and too selfish. As if rising in a chosen endeavor is trickery and subterfuge for a female, but aptitude and perseverance for a male. Bitch They call the women guest dear and sweetheart. The most privileged asshole in the world trying to convince everyone how hard done by he is, by his own stupid life choices. I got to a list of seventeen before asking my friends at the Feminist Mothers Aotearoa Facebook group for their un/favourite examples. I note you avoid tackling THAT! I am a minister who serves a mainline tradition in the U.S., a tradition that has been ordaining women for a century. Are you inferring that females are incapable of debate? You dont make any sense. He went on to accuse me of expecting everyone to conform to my way of thinking. Join Macmillan Dictionary on Twitter and Facebook for daily word facts, quizzes and language news. It is sad that you get so mixed up in the points you want to make, by talking about valuing people for themselves, but then wrongly accusing Feminists of not valuing the home. Period pain (when used by somebody in the insulting phrase Oh, its just period pain) Many thanks! I was musing onhow men dont get complimented on being bubbly or chatty, and that these are behaviours that are, well, unthreatening to men: is that why they are compliments? When my husband works from home he has his own business with no mention of the fact that hes a Dad.. Long time reader, first time commenter Reading your posts always takes me so long because I have to follow so many links and I get all distracted and dont come back to comment. So many words and suggestions and facts to consider ! Why this insult? Am I wrong for wanting to work hard and achieve? And how I wish that all of them cold be somehow eradicated, or have their insulting message diffused. Contact us. My husbands family do the same. Everyday Misogyny: 122 Subtly Sexist Words about Women (and what to do about them), Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window), Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window), Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window), Click to share on Tumblr (Opens in new window), Click to email this to a friend (Opens in new window), 12 Reasons to Welcome Kids in Church + Tips for Actually Doing It, on Everyday Misogyny: 122 Subtly Sexist Words about Women (and what to do about them). Debate is masculine and can harm depending on intention of the individual. Words like pretty and beautiful are used to describe things that evoke strong emotion. Then I saw all these celebs gushing over how much of a genius Eminem was. Coworkers labeled as "bossy" are described as unpopular and unlikely to be successful in the future, and "bossy" women coworkers are seen as more unpopular and less successful compared to "bossy" men coworkers. As we start to attribute characteristics as more male or more female this is where the challenges. Getty Rachel, a seasoned executive in the natural resources industry, got promoted to an important role in. If you insultingly say a man is effeminate you compare him to FEMALES and imply that this makes him somehow an object of ridicule. Share Improve this answer Follow edited Oct 31, 2013 at 19:48 answered Oct 31, 2013 at 19:19 Lumberjack Financial matters, salary, study leave, reimbursement for expenses are not equal. 6. The worst offenders are MY OWN FATHER, who accused me of being stuck up; and my MOTHER-IN-LAW, who insults me at every opportunity she gets in such a wide range of ways that I sense all she can do is throw insults. I agree with 4 or the non gender specific terms but most of the rest are not good. After an unsuccessful first attempt, Jovanovich became pregnant in October 2020. Im pretty sure sensitive, co-dependent, and drama queen are used for both genders. Youre sensitive! is one of my favorite protest-phrases for I disagree, because it manages to make the writer lookoffended. Here are some examples of words that can be used to describe strong women: Resilient: a woman who is able to bounce back from adversity and challenges. Now, remember, this is a slang term, bossy used for a woman who is dominating, a little harsh or may be a little strict. How we speak to and about kids is a larger topic, of course. Just a bit baffled, J.C. in what way do you imply that debate is masculine? 8. ), Insulting names for female body parts (makes me want to vomit if somebody talks about bodies this way): Little woman/lady Thank you for helping me to see through this new lens my own complicity in the life-limiting system of patriarchy. Man of the House. Robert, Im afraid you are incorrect in a few of your assumptions here, and missing a few points. Why the veiled criticism of Feminism? Of course, when God is a man that is not surprising. Select a trainer Implementation phase 6. 'Pushy' Is Used to Describe Women Twice as Often as Men - The Atlantic Business 'Pushy' Is Used to Describe Women Twice as Often as Men An analysis by a Georgia State University linguist. Great list, I am currently doing a design project on language and feminism focusing on the way we use just. General words for leaders and bosses An area or organization that someone controls Free thesaurus definition of words used to describe bossy and interfering people from the Macmillan English Dictionary - a free English dictionary online with thesaurus and with pronunciation from Macmillan Education. Invite others to join in 9. You can leave your suggestions, vote for what the next article will be, and make my writing possible. Snob Abrasive/Direct. How other people choose to dressis none of anyone elses damn business. I was accused of bleating while trying to explain why it may be inappropriate for men to fundraise for a hospital by doing a bed push dressed as female nurses And a few months ago a friend labelled me as bossy. Stuck-up Come on over and have a look you even get some behind-the-scenes stuff . So bossy was a way to cast a woman as unfeminine and unnatural. Its also the lack of lexemes for women. Thanks so much for putting this on my radar. Whereas a man has great potential a female candidate often lacks prior experience. Ive certainly heard men engage in the activity, but not criticised for it very often. Reviews of women only ever used aggressive as a criticism. Men are people too and i think a large majority of men born in later decades of 20th centuary are doing what they can to find true equality in society. Arrogant Good. Bossy/Strong-minded. Women were traditionally supposed to be nurturing and supportive and to help the group. Im a little surprised MILF didnt make the list. It seems that Nurses can be extraordinarily sexist, despite their so-called training. What a wake up call reading this has been. This term discourages women from taking on leadership roles, especially when men who exhibit the same "bossy" behaviors are lauded as leaders and rewarded with promotions. For example, I worked in a Hospital as a Social Worker and my boss was a MALE NURSE. I emailed them immediately in disgust and of course had no reply. Besides, it should be a PERSONAL CHOICE, irrespective of gender, as to whether a person wants a career, or wants to stay at home and raise babies. 'Words can't even describe it' The next step of her journey would involve implanting one of her embryos. Fantastic list! Or, maybe, I have just met bad examples? I looked minger up today and all its synonyms and related idioms. I have also heard wench used similarly-but thats a little more obvious. The fascinating story behind many people's favori Test your vocabulary with our 10-question quiz! You seem to be creating a straw, er, person. (No, its not because I didnt ask for a raise, I did- he didnt have to, it was just offered to him because he had/has potential.) Nut-crusher Lady lumps If you dont agree with her, say so. 4. I was looking for language that propagates violence against women, and while this list isnt that exactly, it was still helpful. Had I been a boy, would I have been treated the same, or would my traits then have been seen as acceptable? This is the favourite term of disparagement in my workplace towards any female manager who has a vision she wants to implement. Women experience a lot of pressure in the realm of child-bearing. (this from a person who learned medical terminology as part of training to be a medical office assistant, and again later in training to be a pharmacist). I had time off work due to these symptoms, and was told by my MALE NURSE BOSS, Why cant you take an aspirin? Having a boss with whom you can speak openly and honestly means that the boss is approachable. [Read more in theThe Womens Media Centers Media Guide to Gender Neutral Coverage of Women Candidates and Politicians, by Rachel Joy Larris and Rosalie Maggio, available as a PDF. See also https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Whataboutism. A ball-buster. Does she not understand the importance of leading by example? SoI tried something new. SHE cannot even bear to MENTION THE FACT I AM DOING POSTGRADUTE STUDY! I mean, ARE there truly masculine and feminine ways of expressing what goes on within, or is this just a way of viewing things based solely upon stereotypical notions of males and females? When I was a little kid at infant school I was unkindly labelled spitfire because I had a strong personality and lots of energy, and I stood up for myself. Ive had this conversation a lot, particularly latelymy father is having a hard time processing the #metoo movement and all it entails. Gold Digger. Your information on the gender pay gap is simply incorrect. Anyone elses judgement of what is valuable, or not, is subjective TO THEM, and thus not relevant to somebody elses circumstances. Its probably more useful for society to see both fathers and mothers as people who work both at home and in other jobs, so rather than abolish working mother, it might be nice to popularise seeing men as working fathers. Seems very gender-specific in current times. Artist: Ashley Fairbanks, used with kind permission. Fried egg tits 6. vulnerable, fundamental). When two groups of women are debating, lets call it debating, too. Delivered to your inbox! ), Tomboy (because a girl who likes to climb is no less a girl. It was a programme called Milkshake which is basically an MC between shows. Amen praise god.. Furthermore, I can tell you that I have NEVER come across a woman who earned a single cent less than me for doing the same job. But first: is she being unreasonable, or is she just disagreeing with you? I dont even think they realize it. Pingback: Campus Question February 19, 2017 | BPI Campus. Interestingly, Lerner points out that although anger is a natural emotion shared by both males and females, angry is an insulting term to describe WOMEN, but rarely if ever men. Hey, thick ankles by the way. The reviews came from 28 different companies, all in the tech sector, and included a range of organisational sizes. Munter AND baby weight is not an insult. Cant find what youre looking for? Totty They come from various sources, such as medical terms, terms used in dating, workplace talk But I have hears ALL of them, and been personally subjected to some, including, Dating insults: I will keep an ear out for that! I think peopleoften use these words (probably unconsciously) to praise women for being unthreatening. I will be moderating the comments to ensure we have a friendly discussion. Yes, women at times can be bitchy. ), Pretty (Im just suggesting that if you use this, its not the first thing you say, or the thing you say most often to a child. For example, he might have done something annoying like walk mud all over the floor, or burn food into the bottom of a pan, but if I point it out (e.g. iron-handed. 1. 2. Successful females are calculating, successful men are smart. I agree with a lot of these things BUT I feel some of these things almost make it out that we are ashamed to be women or embarrassed. 5. Maternal (when not about ones own children). Would it be fair to say: Policy: If you wouldnt say it to a man, dont say it to a woman. Why do you care? Person B: Sexual violence exists on a pyramid. This is an article about language used against women. As a bossy girl who doesnt need an education because Im just going to get married anyway (gotta love the advice my parents received and didnt follow), Ive been struggling with the straight jacket of gender expectations my whole life. Some men and some women love small children. Thunder thighs Plus-size (have you ever heard of a plus-size model who was male?). It certainly warrants multiple re-reads as many of those words are part of my everyday lexicon. Hormonal 12. Sugar tits Im trying to distill this great piece into a concise personnel policy. People die, are refused healthcare, or suffer attack as a result of gender. See for instance how flowery the illustrations of Shakespeares use of the word are in this Pinterest search: And though she be but little she is fierce. I don't want to work with him because he's so. I had another creepy bunch of colleagues in the NHS (a bunch of Nurses!) That word is just for women and it is nothing to be ashamed about as women put on weight for childbirth. Sarah recently postedThailand wrap up. Pingback: Political Meme Thread - Page 391, Pingback: The world I would give my daughter - My Flatpack Life, Great list! A British actress is the latest high profile woman slam . What would make your list? Indeed, the adjective would appear to be gender. We all want to be liked. NOBODY other than that person, and their spouse/partner, should get to have a say in this. She even accused me of being a selfish career-woman! Tits Id rather embrace it and be open about it, not deny what I cant control. These brilliant suggestions came from a member of the Facebook group. In YOUR eyes, just WHO do you think should be working, and WHO should be caring for the vulnerable kids at home? I suppose they are just simply extremely fragile humans. Dont let these comments slide when you hear them.If youre feeling sarky. Jailbait Lezzer (or any implication that working females must be gay) Fluff Not really. Oh wowzers what an incredible post Thalia!
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